Independence Day

It was one of the best ever...Independence Day's that is. The 4th of July has always been one of my favorite holidays... not just because I love the patriotism...it also doesn't hurt that it's a summer holiday...and I love the sun. So I didn't GO to the fireworks...I didn't travel...I was however among friends and of course my two beautiful children...and it was my own Independence Day. I haven't felt this free in years...possibly ever. I finally feel like I own my life...it is what I make of it..I'm getting out of it what I'm putting in it. Being on my own, I'm getting quite used to having things my way. Not that I'm a control freak...I don't even think that's possible with two kids. I just like to be in control of where I'm going, what's is or isn't on tv, what time I go to bed...you know the basic rights we all should have. Don't get me wrong...I don't think I'm destined to be the little old cat lady that has been locked in her house for years...I know that I am meant to share my life with someone special, I just haven't found him yet. For now, I celebrate the opportunity to declare myself the owner of my life again and never to let myself be controlled again. I look forward to the day I can share life with my partner...until then I will keep celebrating Independence Day.

Keep'in it Fresh

How do we keep life fresh and interesting? Whether it be our work, our children, our marriage/relationships we have to keep it fresh...our perspective, our interactions. Once things become routine, we lose passion...this is detrimental (especially to relationships). Is it possible there is a key solution? Humor's good, common interests are important, but a relationship needs so much more for sustainability. Good communication...the ability to communicate both verbally and non-verbally not only what your feeling, but how you got there, how you intend to procede from there and what your expectations are. I think so often we get comfortable with a particular communication style and expectation that we place on ourselves that we are afraid of change and afraid to change the way we express ourselves. What's the solution? I guess just keep talking..no matter what it is...no matter what you think someone else might think or do...keep talking. Use humor, use sincerity, BE YOURSELF.